Single Ladies Take Note....
....Yes If he doesn't have a listening ear while in a relationship with him, your opinion may not count perhaps he prefers to listen to his other friends and outsiders..
Be careful, Marriage may not change him..
Stop wasting your time with a man who is after your cleavages, hips and physique....
For the man after the hips is lusting after you.
Take time to Endeavour to always salvage yourself from the cold hands of locusts and Cankerworms of love...
Remember, your happiness is in your hands.
However the deep affection your parents, sisters , brothers and friends have for him; (some parents and siblings can be selfish in their decisions sometimes)
No matter the pressure on you to marry him;
If you don't feel anything for him...
If there is no compatibility....
If there is no understanding....
If there is no sense of maturity....
If there is no honesty....
Please don't walk down the aisle with him.
Remember after wedding, comes marriage...
If you have a baby outside wedlock, just know it that it's not the end of the world for you. You can as well
still accomplish your vision and fulfill destiny...
But if any man is serious about you, please don't keep it away from him. It's better to let him know than for him to get the news from people, they may change the storyline....
As soon as his intentions are made known to you, please let him know.
Whosoever that wants to stay, will stay.
Don't be deceived or fall into traits!!!
Don't be deceived by the common incessant "pet names" even animal owners call their pets names.....
Don't be deceived by the mere things you see, for the things you see are temporal...
Don't fall into the frivolous words of some men, for their cheap words are not their bond..
Don't be deceived even when he introduces you to his parents and friends....nowadays relationships/courtships are broken even after a visit to the family house.... "keep a close Watch on his character and promises"
Don't be deceived when his friends call you "our wife" even when they know you are a Side Chic..
Don't be deceived when you take selfies in front of his car seat, you are not the first and you may not be the last...
Never giggle your heart out when he calls you "s3xy" he knows you belong to the other room and not to the altar.....
Always be smart,sharp and wise like a snake but as calm like a dove..
Love is a beautiful thing but ignorance can make you a victim.
This is why they said love is wicked.
Don't allow a plate of ice cream/Rice or one expensive gift keep you in an abusive relationship, were your worth is lost,your values is not respected and you have no say.
Where you are being treated like an animal and your spiritual status not maintained.
BREAK OUT TODAY!!!
Remember You may not be alive to witness the next apology or even receive the next gift..
Don't allow a plate of ice cream/Rice keep you in an abusive relationship,
You may not be alive to witness the next apology gift/outing..
Differentiate what you WANT from what you NEED.
Get your priorities right and remember you are fighting a battle.
YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND YOUR PAST LIFE.
There are stages in a relationship which your past is not relevant, talking about and sharing your past would only destroy something that may have worked if given time.
Nobody plants a seed today and apply fertilizer that same day,and you can't plant a seed and it grows that same day.
Natural phenomenons have stages and requires time to grow.
Never be in a hurry to introduce your past life,or talk about what you have been through, to maybe get someone's pity or sympathy.
Meetings someone today and tell that person all your past life and things you have been through is like planting a seed and pouring gas where you planted the seed,you don't expect it to grow, because the person you met is supposed to have a growing love for you everyday, but now he/she would have to first get over your past life then if its possible starts growing love for you.
My point is this, allow people to be your friends first, allow people to know you better, and understand your kind of person and where your going to,before you show them those scars and pains and sorrows you have been through.
Remember,even your partner too has a past,and understands your a human that is imperfect and is bound to make mistakes.
But, Once the person have come to appreciate your nature, no matter what you tell him/her about your past they would still love you and appreciate you.
Never hide your past,them put together makes you who you are.
They are your worst nightmare, your success story and your legacy.
Those scars,pains,betrayal, malice, deceit, hunger and lies make up who you are.
Remember making a mistake is not the problem, but allowing your mistakes repeat is where is problem is.
Do you know some gifts has the capacity to trap you for life?
Do you know some gifts has the abilities to kill your destiny?
Learn to say No,that's what matured people do.
It is not pride,it is being contented with what you have.
There are certain things though you may need it urgently, but are not in God's plans for you at that particular time.
Work with the holy spirit and he would direct you aright.
Remember the devil's plans is for you to work against God's plans for you.
There are some outings you are supposed to refuse,even if its at a 10 star hotel or bar,this has also killed the destiny of many just one outing you are trapped.... Learn to say No.
There are people you should never give your contact to,no matter how beautiful or handsome they look,no matter how rich or bright taking they act.,just a call and you are gone for life.... Learn to say No.
Learn to resist things no matter how attractive they look,learn to leave what has been and what will be and focus on the task ahead,learn to know what you want,and learn to work for what you want.
And who told you aunty that you can't take yourself out and have fun and be happy.
Don't be deceived by free gifts and outing.
Remember there are no free gifts even in free Town.
Learn to say No.
There is no sorrow heaven cannot cure
Falling in love is great, but what about your happily ever after? In order to go the distance with your significant other, it's crucial to ask the question: What really makes a relationship/ marriage work?
To be sincere , the things that may be catalysts at the beginning of your journey (physical attraction, small talk, similar interests) nine(9) times out of 10 are not the things that keep you together long-term.
A Quick one friends....
*How do you deal with Conflicts?
*How do you handle decision making?
*Is the respect Level mutual?
*How strong is the communication base?
*How does it affect your spiritual growth?
*What is the sacrifice strength of both parties?
Your ability to answer this questions helps you score your Relationship or marriage.
You would also need to understand the difference between a mature, adult “discussion,” and an immature “fight” with a winner and loser.
God help us...Amen
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Maybe I should remind us this..
It is thank you baby, not thanks.
It is am so sorry dear,not sorry.
It is Good morning dearest, not morning to you.
It is Good night sweet not Good night.
It is I so appreciate you sweety not you tried well.
It is okay baby not ok
It is I love you more dear not same here.
It is how are you doing baby not how you.
It is take care dear not bye.
It is have a nice day honey too not same here.
It is be careful sunshine not watch ooooo.
It is your welcome hearty not ok or anytime.
It is yes dearie not yessss or yes!!!.
Watch your words and phrases too.Your words and phrases are so important guys, don't let the familiarity take away the natural respect you're supposed to have for each other.
Your partner may never complain about this, but you need to keep your relationship and marriage running and spicy and it what help to build and promote impart in it.
Remember you can never see the end of anyone because change is constant and we either get better or worsen everyday so don't think you have seen it all in your partner, don't let familiarity kill your love vibs.
Very simple but complex, God will help us as we help ourselves!
Get this, that your man is cheating and not living up to expectations does not mean every other guy is a dog.
I heard about this most times,"All men are the same".
Maybe because one or two guys you have dated cheated on you or your brothers cheats in his relationship,you now think that all men are the same.
Now so because some ladies follow married men around,we should now believe that all the ladies are fishers of men.
Or because there are ladies who are willing to sleep with men because of money,we should now say all the ladies are the same.
This things don't work that way....
First we have differences in our lives ,in our upbringing, in our environment and in our purpose.
When you meet a man of Honor, a man of dignity, a man with integrity,a man on purpose, even from his countenance you would know.
He is passionate about God.
He doesn't joke with destiny.
He is on the dream to fulfill his mission on earth.
He encourages you and ever seeking to make you better.
He is just that diligent man Proverbs talked about in 22 vs29.
My sister, when you meet him,whether rich or poor walk with him cause his light would keep shining brighter and brighter until that perfect day.
Remember no situation is permanent and change is constant
HUMILITY IS THE KEY IN RELATIONSHIP.
Humility is a great asset to you, if you desire to live a happy life.
Pride may be the very reason why you have not seen anyone good enough for you.
They are either too young or too old.
They are either too educated or not educated.
Too beautiful to handle or too ugly to show your family and friends.
They are to rich for you to control or too poor to provide for your high standards.
Sometimes you even think its a privilege for your date to have someone like you.
Stop boasting about your physical achievements,there is nothing you have that you have not received,all by Grace.
In fact when you boast you tell God you don't need his support and help.
Take a second and look at someone you rejected in the past,you may have overlooked some positive qualities in that person.
Don't always fix on people's weakness, but fine something better to hold on to.
Don't always write people off from a common "Hello"
Learn to tolerate and accommodate people's approach.
Don't look unapproachable and always wearing a sad and mean face.
However,this does not mean you settle with someone who you don't connect with,emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
Just learn to give people benefit of doubt.
Learn to accommodate people's errors.
Live simple and free.
Have Christ at the center of your heart.
Humble yourselves and God will exult you in due time.
Remember there is no sorrow heaven cannot cure.
Make up your mind and stay with God.
Don't be afraid of tomorrow because God holds Your tomorrow.Be strong and vigilant, talk to God,he answers prayers.
Your dream Man/Woman would come.
You will learn that skill.
You would finish strong.
You will win that battle.
Your financial life would rise again.
Just stay with him...
He would help you. Let me tell you ,its not about who is singing in church, is not about who goes to church everyday, instead its about who has God in his or her heart.Its about who loves God,its about who loves his creation.
One of the many qualities that made God supreme is that when he wants to bless you he does not take permission form anyone. He does not look at what people have said about you. And he does not look at your family background.
Some of us are in church, singing in choir,taking lead in worship,doing ushering up and down yet we are first to carry people's story around the whole Town. Before you throw stones at people make sure your not leaving in a glass house.
I rest my Case here.
Remember there is no sorrow heaven cannot cure.
Thanks for the information
Woaw, this really food for thought and an eye opener, I am actually a victim of this and it has affected my spiritual life, I really need to wake up and act I mediately
This is a good information, thanks
I love this write up, it's awesome
This is amazing pinpoint and great eye opener
Wonderful! This write-up is educating especially for those that are not yet married.
This is a good write up buh its all about HIM not her or both
If hes not this
If hes not that...